Aloha Fridays are brought to you by Kailani in beautiful Hawaii at An Island Life where Friday is the day to take it easy while anticipating the coming weekend. Today I'm going to link up, relax and ask an easy question:
What method of discipline do you or your spouse use? Do you spank, threaten, take away privileges, ground or use timeouts?
I'm lucky our 5-year-old daughter responds very well to timeouts. I normally use 5 minutes (1 minute for each year of age). And at our house, I'm the "bad cop", her dad is useless at discipline and turns to me when he wants her to do something.
This is a big turnaround from the old days when we used to hate hearing "just wait until your father gets home!!"
What method of discipline do you or your spouse use? Do you spank, threaten, take away privileges, ground or use timeouts?
I'm lucky our 5-year-old daughter responds very well to timeouts. I normally use 5 minutes (1 minute for each year of age). And at our house, I'm the "bad cop", her dad is useless at discipline and turns to me when he wants her to do something.
This is a big turnaround from the old days when we used to hate hearing "just wait until your father gets home!!"
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For us it depends on the situation... But Alex is only 2 so we talk alot.
Time outs with Brad and grounding with Emily. Never have spanked, although I was spanked many times!...ouch!
Time outs with Brad and grounding with Emily. Never have spanked, although I was spanked many times!...ouch!
Our kids are 11, 13, 15, and 18 so the most effective way to discipline them at this point is taking away privileges (such as computer, video games, cell phone, etc.).
With the oldest, it's a very difficult thing to figure out...he still lives under our roof and we pay for his food/insurance, etc. But, he is almost 19, has a job, a car, does his own thing for the most part. We are having a hard time balancing treating him like an adult but also making sure he still follows our rules. I can honestly say this is the hardest stage of parenting I've ever faced.
We always tried to be consistant. When they were young we would spank. When they got older it was the grounding and taking away priviledges.
The older ones complain now the little one doesnt get spanked enuff.
Princess Nagger is an angel most of the time, so she's rarely had to be disciplined. A few time outs when she was younger, and now that she's 9 the threat to have privileges revoked have never had to come to fruition.
Little Dude, on the other hand, is a whole 'nother ball game. The fact that he's a boy and all boy is a strange new world for me. Plus, he never had structure, discipline or the teaching of right from wrong for the first 3-1/2 years of his life, so coming to us almost 7 months ago has been the biggest challenged I've ever had to date. ;) He spends a lot of time in time-outs and has had toys taken away, but nothing seems to phase him at all...we're making sure we're consistent, and according to his psych eval, apparently adjusting to a new family and new structure will take him at minimum a year...so there's a light at the end of the tunnel! :)
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Time outs and taking away privileges.
It depend on which one of our children it is. However, we never do time out.
We tried a bunch of different tactics, but time-outs work best with our oldest. Our youngest is still too little for real discipline, so we'll see where we go with him.
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I never had to spank and believe me, I was tested many times. I have no regrets (my kids are grown).
Have a great weekend!
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I dont have kids and my parents say all they had to do when I was little was look at me sternly and I would stop misbehaving.
I am the burned out bad cop here. We have done reward systems for positive behavior, time out, losing items, and the list goes on and on.
Depends on the age and situation.
I do all of the above.
Happy weekend!
Usually timeouts, grounding, or take away their iPods.
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